In the age of social media and internet culture, it can be easy to underestimate the role of a strong, tangible social network. While online support can serve various purposes, we cannot discount the need for real-world social interaction and support. As humans, we have relied on one another for the entirety of our existence. Unfortunately, our increasingly individualistic society tends to promote working alone and accomplishing goals as an individual. But that can only get us so far.

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In Norman B. Anderson’s text, Emotional Longevity, the author discusses the innate human desire for bonding and connecting with one another. He points to numerous studies wherein the necessity of human connection has been proven time and time again. Anderson discusses findings based on questions about whether a person feels loved or cared for, has a confidant, is satisfied with their supportive relationships, is married or not, etc. What he and other researchers found is that the effects of our social relationships on cardiovascular disease are of the same magnitude as traditional risk factors like cigarette smoking, high cholesterol, obesity, excessive alcohol use, and physical inactivity. Through decades of research, it is clear that those with stronger social relationships live more positive emotional lives as well as more physically healthy lives.

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Anderson explores four different forms of social support: 
1. Emotional support: Help with emotional difficulties or upsetting situations, or the communication of caring and concern.
2. Instrumental support: Help with getting routine tasks accomplished, such as providing transportation, helping with chores, babysitting, or assisting in an emergency.
3. Financial support: Help with economic needs or when monetary issues arise.
4. Appraisal support: Help with evaluating and interpreting situations or with problem-solving.

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Humans were not made to tackle life’s difficulties on our own. For this reason, it is undeniably important that we care for one another and offer a helping hand when possible. Never hesitate to look for others in times of need. Prioritize your friendships and push yourself to build outward; you never know when you will need someone else’s support.

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